Leeches.....

Life is an interesting place....

People are interesting creatures.

I think as human beings  we are extremely social beings...and without realizing it, our day to day sense of worth and existence really revolves round our relationships with other people in our lives, in whatever capacity they are.

Now and then, I'm accused of being anti-social.
I've never agreed with that description....but everyone is allowed their opinion I suppose.
But perhaps my need for other human attention, acceptance, acknowledgement has just waned over time...And hence i can peacefully exist with minimal interaction from others.
I ceased being a 'people-pleaser'.....decided not to bend with the wind.......decided to make some people uncomfortable....
This indeed is a sense of freedom.
To be truly yourself.
No dependency on others.
Some people may see it as being lonely....but there is a huge difference between being lonely and choosing to be alone.
Sometimes the drama just isn't worth it.....from those far off, but especially from those near and perhaps once dear.

Interestingly over the years I've come to notice....and have discussed with many other people....as to how some people that populate one's life are there just out of convenience.

How many of us have that 'friend' who we keep on the side and only call when we need something?
How many of us have that family member who is but a virtual stranger to us now despite having probably spent the first 2 decades of your lives together??
How many of us have friends, loved ones, associates who have come and gone intermittently throughout our lives....leave.....not a word.......and then only to show up with some crisis or drama at certain time intervals....?
How many of us have totally erased the memory of individuals who at one point of our lives took up center stage of the entire play we were in??

On the flip side....
We have the people who are there.....always...
Un-wavering.....
Un-judging.....
Constant.
The ones who there was an instant connection.
The ones who you didn't have to pretend with.
The ones who despite not having spoken in years, you can pick up the thread of conversation where you left it off half a decade ago........
The people who have stood the test of time.

Our lives are about our relationships with others......that human connection.
Anyone who tried to refute that, is in denial.
The dependency on these connections is what may vary within people.
We give precedence to those we are bound by decree to call 'family'....But we all know, that's not necessarily the truth of the word family.
Family are the constants....And that is truly decided over time......Not last name.
And that there is indeed a huge difference in being lonely and choosing to be alone....and it is okay!

I've come across so many people who think they are odd-balls....who don't fit into the mould.....who deem themselves as anti-social....amazing men and women who have falsely been led to believe that they are an anomaly and should change...conform.......
I say to you....you are as beautiful as you truly are.
Stay yourself always.
THEY will adjust to you and accept you eventually.
And the ones who don't, were not worth the time.